Sometimes we happen to want very much one thing to happen. And we are pushing, we fight against reality, we resist ourselves. Sometimes, we do not even think if that event does not happen, imaybe is for our own good. Maybe we are not prepared enough for that thing to happen or if it would happen, it would attract something that we do not anticipate and can not manage. Or it's just not the right time.
Anything happens for a reason
A client of mine has told me a story. She really wanted to work with a fellow colleague on a project. And she "curted" him for a while, then began to push, although this colleague gave her more signs that he would not be interested in that project.
She finally gave up. The next day, she found out that the project was just for one person. If that colleague does not reject the proposal, she would have been immediately to choose between her colleague and her own person to work on that project. Perhaps she would have chosen her, but she would have to give up her colleague immediately after she convinced him to be part of this amazing project.
When I asked her what she learned from this experience? She replied: "Everything has a meaning and it is good to accept that meaning even if we can not understand it in that moment. Do not push against"
Go with the flow, do not push against
The expression going with the flow is a metaphor that applies to navigating a river. When we go with the flow, we follow the current of the river rather than push against it. People who go with the flow may be interpreted as lazy or passive, but to truly go with the flow requires awareness, presence, and the ability to blend one's own energy with the prevailing energy. Going with the flow doesn't mean we toss our oars into the water and kick back in the boat, hoping for the best. Going with the flow means we let go of our individual agenda and notice the play of energy all around us. We tap into that energy and flow with it, which gets us going where we need to go a whole lot faster than resistance will.
Going with the flow doesn't mean that we don't know where we're going; it means that we are open to multiple ways of getting there. We are also open to changing our destination, clinging more to the essence of our goal than to the particulars. We acknowledge that letting go and modifying our plans is part of the process. Going with the flow means that we are aware of an energy that is larger than our small selves and we are open to working with it, not against it.
Many of us are afraid of going with the flow because we don't trust that we will get where we want to go if we do. This causes us to cling to plans that aren't working, stick to routes that are obstructed, and obsess over relationships that aren't fulfilling. When you find yourself stuck in these kinds of patterns, do yourself a favor and open to the flow of what is rather than resisting it. Trust that the big river of your life has a plan for you and let it carry you onward. Throw overboard those things that are weighing you down. Be open to revising your maps. Take a deep breath and move into the current.
