How Coaching can help Leaders to be more relaxed and aware of them
Updated: Jun 13, 2019
Past days I read an article describing a reality about Leaders, organizations, employees, awarness, results and relationships. It is about being aware of you and your relationships with others first and put some focus and energy about being good, competitive, efficient and spectacular, after.
Improving Leaders Performance
In recent years, more and more books on leadership and training programs focus on how Managers can achieve more, they can do more, better and faster with spectacular results.
Contemporary leadership and leadership literature seems to be a predictive reproduction of business thinking in the 19th and 20th centuries with an emphasis on bigger, better, faster, more at the same time, planning, analyzing and solving problems. In other words, work with "steroids" used to increase performance.
As the obsession of continuous improvement and speeding up work, excessive focus on being efficient and performant implicitly increase level of stress and burnout at leaders and employees. Sometimes this comes with high costs related to their state of mind, wellbeing the deterioration of relationships between them.
Being self-aware it is a leadership ability, a „muscle” which you need to develop as a practice in own self-management and can support you the use your calm, open-minded and an objective approach in your work and personal life.
Leaders' mindset and emotions influence employees
While it is true that the effectiveness of Leaders is determined by the results he achieves, these results have an impact on how are the relationships with others. Behaviors are driven by thinking and emotions. Thinking and emotions can be the result of either increased self-awareness or very low self-awareness.
Neuroscience research has clearly demonstrated that we are acting, deciding and choosing as a result of an inner, sometimes unconscious force, and our brains have reactive and protective mechanisms that often guide us. Researches also points out that emotions are contagious and often at work are guided by the emotional state of Leaders.
If Leaders feel they do not have enough time to reflect on them and work on all these aspects of the problem, they tend to use just the shorten thinking and become impulsive and reactive. In time, as an effect on a long term, they become less conscious, on the pilot mood.
In my practice as Coach I encourage my clients to:
- Becoming more aware of their own thoughts, emotions and attitudes and observing them day by day;
- Reflect on their behaviors and impact on others; Replace impulsive reactions with behaviors in which thoughts, emotions and actions are aligned;
- They use both practical thinking, decision making and intuition, empathy and reflection in decision making;
- Position in the state of "being" and in the state of "doing" every day.